Dear Enable Me To Grow readers,
Because miscarriage is a very personal topic that is not often discussed, I have decided to open up about my recent experience and share some of the quotations and stories from the Baha’i Writings that helped me through this very emotional test. Over the next two days two of my articles will appear on a website called Baha’i Teachings.
Although miscarriage is experienced by at least 20% of women at some point in their lifetime, it is not always talked about openly and people often suffer in silence. Mothers, as well as fathers and other family members, bear the emotional pain of losing a baby they will never know, and the world around them is for the most part oblivious.
It is very important to be very supportive of families dealing with this issue, which can include being there for each other throughout the process of grieving and working together to find positive ways to move on. I share some ideas that helped me personally in the articles, and I hope they can help if you or a friend is going through a miscarriage now or in the future.
In the first article I share one of my favorite prayers to recite while dealing with tests and which we actually composed a tune for while I was pregnant, a week before the miscarriage occurred. This song will be available on our upcoming CD “At First Light” Volume 2 and I am also offering it here as a free download in the hopes it can soothe some other hearts dealing with grief.Download MP3 for “Refresh And Gladden”
Find my posts over at Baha’i Teachings using the following links:
I hope sharing my experience may bring hope and comfort to those who may be grieving the loss of a baby, and help them know that they are not alone.
Here are some other helpful quotations not included in the articles:
Question. — What is the condition of children who die before attaining the age of discretion or before the appointed time of birth?
Answer. — These infants are under the shadow of the favor of God; and as they have not committed any sin and are not soiled with the impurities of the world of nature, they are the centers of the manifestation of bounty, and the Eye of Compassion will be turned upon them.
(Abdu’l-Baha, Some Answered Questions, p. 240)
Be not grieved at the death of that infant child, for it is placed in trust for thee before thy Lord in His great Kingdom.
Verily God will bestow upon thee that whereby thy heart shall be rejoiced and thy breast shall be dilated. Verily thy Lord is compassionate and merciful!
(Abdu’l-Baha, Tablets of Abdu’l-Baha v1, p. 194)
O thou handmaid aflame with the fire of God’s love! Grieve thou not over the troubles and hardships of this nether world, nor be thou glad in times of ease and comfort, for both shall pass away. This present life is even as a swelling wave, or a mirage, or drifting shadows. Could ever a distorted image on the desert serve as refreshing waters? No, by the Lord of Lords! Never can reality and the mere semblance of reality be one, and wide is the difference between fancy and fact, between truth and the phantom thereof.
Know thou that the Kingdom is the real world, and this nether place is only its shadow stretching out. A shadow hath no life of its own; its existence is only a fantasy, and nothing more; it is but images reflected in water, and seeming as pictures to the eye.
Rely upon God. Trust in Him. Praise Him, and call Him continually to mind. He verily turneth trouble into ease, and sorrow into solace, and toil into utter peace. He verily hath dominion over all things.
If thou wouldst hearken to my words, release thyself from the fetters of whatsoever cometh to pass. Nay rather, under all conditions thank thou thy loving Lord, and yield up thine affairs unto His Will that worketh as He pleaseth. This verily is better for thee than all else, in either world.
(Abdu’l-Baha, Selections from the Writings of Abdu’l-Baha, p. 177)
As for comments please note, although I appreciate your sentiments, I do not need messages of condolence for my loss. However I would love to hear how you or someone you know has moved on after miscarriage, and what words of wisdom you can share with other women who are experiencing this painful loss.